people are fine calling other people “they/their” when they don’t know their gender but when someone says they WANT those pronouns suddenly it’s too hard
Gonna be honest here… didn’t see this one coming.
On Sunday, the President of Israel, Shimon Peres, announced strong support for same-sex marriage as a civil right that should not be taken away.
a post by a straight person saying ‘how can anyone hate the gays they’re so adorable!!” followed by 100 pictures of white, cis attractive gay men and destiel gifs. 50,000 notes. 10,000 reblogs saying OMG SO TRUE!!! and DFGHJK FEELS
I’ve seen many posts where people are expressing that they “like trans* men,” “find FtM’s so hot,” etc. I want to explain what I hear when I hear that. I’m also going to take a few of the common arguments as to why it’s okay to say something like that and explain why it’s still offensive.
When I hear someone say that I hear them telling me I am not a real man. I hear them telling me that I am different than a cisgender man. I am reminded of my differences - my body. I hear that I am not defined by my personality but rather by my body. The body I don’t want and want to escape. I hear that these people see me, and all ftm people, as the same and as different than cisgender men.
Now for the arguments I’ve heard:
But I’m attracted to sensitive [insert any trait here] people
Not all ftm people are sensitive or understanding. Some are and some aren’t. Trans men can be sexist assholes too. Think of the most annoying cis man you now a trans guy can be exactly the same. It’s fine to be attracted to certain personality traits but don’t think that those personality traits apply to all trans men. They don’t.
I like girls and trans men because I’m attracted to certain genitals
You might like certain genitals and that is okay. However, unless you ask all people what genitalia they have before deciding if you’re attracted to them then you’re not really attracted solely to genitals. Also, you’re assuming that all trans men have those genitals while that isn’t true. Furthermore, many trans men, due to dysphoria, are not comfortable using those parts. And lastly, it’s really messed up to only see a person in reference to their genitals.
I understand that a lot of people who say or think these things just are not educated. So I hope this post provides some education.
so both tom daley and maria bello have announced, in the past 24 hours, that they are in queer relationships and have been in straight relationships in the past, without actually labeling themselves as gay, but every headline is TOM DALEY COMES OUT AS GAY and MARIA BELLO IS A LESBIAN
the homo/hetero binary is alive and well kids
"I’ve never met a trans* person"
YOU DO NOT KNOW THAT.
YOU DO NOT KNOW THAT.
YOU DO NOT KNOW THAT.
YOU. DO. NOT. KNOW. THAT.
one time this guy got mad at me for not wanting to attend a trans* meeting (cause my boyfriend is trans) and said it would be good and educational for me since I did have a trans boyfriend.
But actually I’m trans too…but he thought I was a cis male so…
you never really know.
There is so many misconceptions about female to male bottom surgery. So I compiled some information about what I have learned about phalloplasty. This isn’t from a bias point of view but rather just the facts out there.
There are many different phalloplasty techniques.The most common technique is is forearm flap (free, radial, and osteocutaneous), followed by a fibula flap, pubic flap, latissumis dorsi flap, groin flap, island tensor fasciae flap, phalloplasty NOS combined with metoidioplasty, lateral arm flap, and finally rectus abdominus muscle flap with radial forearm free flap.
With most techniques the surgeon and patient will discuss a size pre-surgery. It will generally be the size of an average, adult male penis. With the “Kim Phalloplasty” or conjoined bilateral pedicled groin flap phalloplasty the average length is slightly below the universal average. The average for “Kim Phalloplasty” is 4.1 inches in length.
Void while Standing:
In one case study of 559 men who had urethroplasty between 198 and 2010 531 (95 %) were able to void while standing.
97% reported general satisfaction with their results.
90% reported cosmetic satisfaction.
74% reported sexual satisfaction.
One report said that all female-to-male patients reported being able to orgasm post surgery.
Donor Site Satisfaction:
Over 80% of patients are satisfied with the appearance of their donor site.
Strictures: One study of 946 patients reported that about 19% of patients experienced strictures. The Sava Pevoric team reports that 3-5% of patients experiences strictures.
Fistula: A study of 909 patients reported that 311 of them experienced fistulae post-op. While the Sava Pevoric team reports that 5% of their patients developed fistula afterwards.
Necrosis: One report said that 6% of patients experienced partial necrosis and 1% experiences total necrosis.
Complications with donor site: 7% of the Sava Pevoric team’s patients have had complications with the donor site which were all fixed with further surgery.
Prosthesis Infection: 4-5% of the Sava Perovic team’s patients reported infection however the introduction of antibiotic-coated implants has allowed this number to decrease.
Prosthetic Protrusion: 3% of the Sava Perovic patients who opted for an inflatable penile prosthetic experience protrusion while 7% with malleable prosthetics experienced it.
Prosthetic Device failure: Very rare and it replaced without extra cost.
Adams, Noah and Francois Grenier “Is it worth it? What Health Care Providers Should Know about Phalloplasty.”
Sava Perovic “Surgical Phalloplasty Operation: Female to Male.”
Urodoc “Kim FtM Phalloplasty: Conjoined Bilateral Pedicled Groin Flap.”
Vancouver Coastal Health “A Guide to FtM Surgeries.”
We all like to complain about the cost of binders but this lovely woman Kat here »> http://constructboy.tumblr.com/ has set up a UK based shop selling binders for just a tenner £10 here» http://s3lfm4de.bigcartel.com/ . And they look pretty comfy and its from the UK so you wont need to wait like 30 days.
"How the Media Failed Women in 2013," courtesy of Miss Representation. This is mind-boggling and you must watch it right now.
The fact that we’re still fighting for equal treatment is appalling.
The men in this world are fucking pigs, and I promise you that a man was behind all the racy commercials.
Men, you are a sad, disgusting excuse for human beings, and it’s a damn shame that only some of us men give a shit about true feminism because you’re too scared of being outdone by the opposite gender, that you automatically throw your hands up in defense and call WOMEN the problem.
No, no, no.. Just, no.